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Posted by Anon (!) Sep 2005 in 'Suggest a new Forum:' How about a forum where we can tell secrets publicly and bare our soles and release that devil from our head so we don't have the pressure hanging over us.
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Post or Ask something here in 'Confessional' Confessional my husband used to prostitute himself as a womanmy husband used to a prostitute to men. he had a relationship with one of two pimps ,on off for 8 years,had a drug problem from a teenager after being raped in a police cell.he then became a heshe so he could make more money for drug problem .he told me early on in our relationship & as a friend it wouldnt have botherd me ,i thought he was my soulmate until he told me ,ive been devastated since ,even though he put his past behind him ,his past discusts me. three years later & children ,i thought i could over come his past the way he has but i hate him even more the time goes on .i have always tried to avoid men with a messed up past because of the way i know i would take it .he realy loves me & i know i would love him the same if it wasnt for his past.i feel life has played a cruel trick on me .i love my children i hate life .how would you feel if you found out your girlfriend used to be a prostite & the only reason they told you was because the pimp was gonna tell you first before yo Post reply -->London Confessional p 24 Jun ^ Confessional Husband Pros - PastHi Past is like something under skin. Don't scratch too much,it wud bleed and pain. Can you do something to undo what happened due to circumstances then ? If you can't, then just let it go. Can you rewind it ? If you can't then play present and move forward. If the present is good, play it. Why do you look back, what 's the need to rewind ? The more you look back and then try to forget/adjust, more difficult would it be... Just move on with flow. Practice sitting alone with your eyes shut and count your breath 1-10... Practice it. Mark my words, this 'past problem' would appear to you trivial and your would love him more. If you want to further discuss, E Mail-me I simply help by chatting without any obligations. Take care of your present. Don't worry what had happened several years back. Hold every moment of present. Live in your present. Just DO IT. Post reply -->London Confessional Mathumia 25 Jun ^ ConfessionalDo you know which aspect of his history upsets you the most? Maybe if you could work this out it might help. I met a girl once who became hooked on opium and worked as a S&M dominatrix. She described how all she really wanted was to love and be loved, and that a bad sequence of events tipped her into a state where she couldn't trust people. The drugs and her relationships with customers became her substitute for a real relationship. I don't think it necessarily takes lot to tip people over. I'm not surprised to hear your friend had trouble in his teenage years. I think it genuinely takes courage and resolve to come back. You say that you want to avoid men with messed up past, and I do understand this. I just wanted to suggest that maybe the love you get from someone who has been to dark place and come back is different, more wise, more intense than from someone who has never had to struggle. Please forgive me if this is a clumsy reply. Post reply -->London Confessional 30 Jul ^ Confessional reply of confesion of my husbandto the second person thank you for a reply .it seems like a more logical piece of advice to analize ,the first person who responded thankyou to,it just seemed a bit simplistic i wish i felt that way & just forget & move on ,hate & bitterness can be complex ,when my partner is trusting me as a best friend & because of my partner i now trust no one except my children.im always looking for an excuse to leave him & he cant understand what he has done wrong ,his loyalty is unwavering ,but all i want to do is leave him its very selfish of me because we have children ,i keep having children hoping my feelings for him would change,i do love him but it never goes away .i will stay for the kids & for him but not sure how long it will last or if i will find true happiness with him,we will see Post reply -->London Confessional p 2 Aug Confessional Im LonelyI have never spoken out loud before about this. It’s embarrassing for me to admit I have no friends. I go to work every day then come home have dinner and watch television. That is it... Every weekend including the long Bank Holiday ones, I find myself alone. Sometimes I cry but mostly I try not to think about my loneliness. This evening I realised I have to make a serious effort to get a best friend. But I don’t have a clue where to start. I don’t want to meet someone who is just interested in going to nightclubs. I’m looking for someone I can talk to on a regular basis, pop over to their place with a bottle or mine whichever. I’m female in my early thirties based in Willesden Green, London. There must be others out there like me I wish I could find them. If you recognise yourself in anything I have said or if you feel you have some words of wisdom for me please please message me on Mail-me Post reply -->London Confessional C 11 May ^ Confessional LonelyHi maybe check out plusgroups.org.uk - national federation of 18 plus groups for 18 to 35 year olds, social group to meet others looking to expand their social life Post reply -->London Confessional clare 15 May | These aren't commercial ads below: they are a rotating selection of postings contributed by MoveThat.com users in the last 24h. |
 | ^ Confessional Response to Im LonelyIt was as though I was reading about myself - I'm in exactly the same boat as you and I'm sure we're not alone. It is really hard to make friends when you are over 30, I'm 34 and I get really frustrated because you need friends to be able to go out and meet new ones - we can't wander the streets of London with a sign post saying I'm lonely, please help. I don't know what the answer is, but I've left my email address if you want to contact me. Mail-me Post reply -->London Confessional L 29 May ^ Confessional This world of strangers...Hi M I was quite touched by your posting on this website. But trust me you are NOT ALONE in thinking like this. In this city of LONDONERS, I guess there are thousands who are in similar situations like yours and 'mine' too. Many like us have somehow not been able to get into the circle. We wait and wait at the periphery to be called inside the circle. And at times, our efforts to get into one are either rejected or ridiculed. I found several ways to deal with it including Yoga, Meditation, Naturism, Cooking and spending time with myself. These helped, but surely I need sometimes someone who can share, feel with me. Whom I can appreciate and motivate... If you like please mention or send me a line. We can progress further. Take care.. Mail-me Post reply -->London Confessional Mathumia 9 Jun ^ Confessionalthat's so strange, I was just coming on here to post something similar. Only difference is, I have kids so if it wasn't for them..... I still want friends too though but don't know where to start either - i'm in my thirties like you. I just find it terribly embarrasing when people ask me about friends because I just don't have even one. I feel lost sometimes. Post reply -->London Confessional 31 May ^ Confessional This world of strangers...Hi Friendship creates no boundaries for kids. You can have kids as well as friends. Take life in a flow... pls contact Mail-me Post reply -->London Confessional Mathumia 20 Jun Confessional hummmI like this confessional! It means that you can say anything you like in here. Just write you heart out. Be honest about your feelings. I am 29 and feeling a bit lonely in this big city packed with people. I had a a few close friends but they moved away.... So, I know find myself craving for some intimate friendship. Friends I could go out with, do things with such as cinema, bars, clubs, walks, dinner, cook, drink, talk to and do all these beautiful things that friends usually do together, such as support each other.... I really miss that. Any ideas on how to find friends in London anyone? I enjoy a lot of diferent activities and easy going. Post reply -->London Confessional 8 Mar ^ Confessional National Federation of 18 Plus GroupsHi you could check out their website and see if any groups in your area, for people wishing to widen their social life for 18s to 35s Post reply -->London Confessional Clare 16 Mar ^ Confessional HummmThere are many places you can go to make friends, groups and clubs, etc. It is a bit difficult to give you advice as I don't know whether you are female or male. The importance of that is that knowing would be better to point you in one direction or another. Mail-me Post reply -->London Confessional Hummm 31 Mar Confessional can any one helpHi I'm a young single mother 29 of a happy active boy of 9. i am soooo lonely, i don't have any friends as all my friends are single with no kids and i feel they pity me, which i really don't want, someone very close to me has just passed away and i feel so lost , lonely and empty, and i keep finding that i am pushing my son away. i really don't want to live anymore and each day i am finding the fight to live harder. has anyone got any advice for me please.................. really could do with some help thank you Post reply -->London Confessional m 21 Jan ^ Confessional can anyone helpM, I think you should see your GP to see if they can refer you for some counselling or mental health support as you are going through a rough time and are thinking about not being alive. Losing someone close can be a very painful and difficult time. I lost my Mum almost 3 years ago and still miss her every day. I had bereavement counselling which taught me rather than thinking that the pain of the bereavement will get less (which I did not want to hear) rather that I would learn to grow around it....and to be honest I have. There is a way forward for you and your son and you owe it to both of you to seek help to start looking at how. CRUSE do a good website on bereavement, MIND produce loads of materials to help with feeling low - there is also the samaritans available every day. But I think see your GP or contact your local mental health team - there is one in every area - who can help you with the right track. Good luck. Post reply -->London Confessional LM 23 Jan ^ ConfessionalHey, You need to start taking control of your life...step at a time. Have you talked about this to some close friends of yours? You will be surprised at how supportive people are! Also, how about taking up an activity that you really enjoy. Give yourself some "me" time and it would also be a great way to meet some new people. Hope it helps. Post reply -->London Confessional xarg 29 Jan ^ Confessional mHi M what area do you live in? I could see whether any services around which may be of help to you. Post reply -->London Confessional Clare 7 Feb ^ ConfessionalBeen trying to answer you with what I think are a couple of constructive points ever since you posted but somehow can't get anything longer than a line accepted. Mail-me Post reply -->London Confessional Tamsin 8 Feb ^ ConfessionalDear sister I read your post. Please email me if you are still looking for someone to talk to. my email is: Mail-me Kindest regards Post reply -->London Confessional Mark Fox 29 Feb ^ Confessional MIf you can put your email on here then there are all sorts of things you can do to enjoy your life. I could let you know of functions, etc. Mail-me Post reply -->London Confessional vincent 4 Mar ^ Confessional Hi M,I never respond these postings much, but find your struggles so similar to my own that I had to reply. I think many of us, women & men, have more lessons to learn & surprises that come our way. I firmly believe that one primary lifelong personal challenge threads through each life, and unfortunately resurfaces again and again. Now I am getting depressed! No, seriously the upside to my lost and often insecure self, is that I am finally appreciating myself for being the vulnerable, nice, & unassuming person that I saw as weak all my life. I am understanding better the cycle of behaviors that I tend to adopt & how they lead me to isolate myself. And really as long as I am aware of how not to cycle into this I can at least be a step ahead. Basically, I am coming to accept that I (and have always been this way) am more of a one-on-one type of person, because I like to put my all into a friendship. I am just not a big group party multi-aquaintance type of person. Post reply -->London Confessional Kate Agricola 19 Jul ^ Confessional thank you^ ConfessionalIt's a difficult age - too young to leave alone and too big to be taken along to activities for young children. If you are feeling isolated, though, you could try getting stuck into the PTA, Governors, Friends of... whatever of his school. You will meet other adults and instantly have issues in common - if only the next fundraising event. Also value your son's company while you can. My son is now 14 and would not be seen dead with me, but a couple of years ago we used to have a great time playing tennis together. There is also cycling - hiring banana bikes and crazy tandems in Dulwich or Battersea - or if cost is an issue you could see if a local nature reserve wants volunteers to help out - a chance to get muddy together and build some great memories. Hopefully building an active friendship now (rather than just mother/child dependency) will lay a good foundation for the future and getting out and about together will also put you in the way of adult company. Post reply -->London Confessional Tamsin 8 Feb Confessional What do I do nowI was made redundant two years ago after twenty years at my last job.I was a forktruck driver warehouseman. At 57 Im finding It very difficult obtaining employment Ive been on various scheems with the job centre but all to no avail Im starting to feel desperate. Ive never been In this situation before and am being treated as If I have never done a days work In my life If It wasnt for my wife and kids I dont think I could go on Anyone have any Ideas. Post reply -->London Confessional Michael 16 Jan ^ Confessional What do I do now?Michael, don't give up. Hold on to the fact that you have many positives in your life - like your wife and your kids. I do not have any clever answer about how to find work but I wanted to reply to your posting to offer some support from one person to another, albeit anonamously. I hope you are not offended by suggesting trying voluntary work - to get your foot in the door somewhere and getting the all important recent work experience. Not only that but you may well find the sense of achivement from it which comes from working - which I think helps with self esteem. Good luck, I hope things work out for you. Post reply -->London Confessional LM 18 Jan Confessional looking for Volunteer for FREE Counselling - Documentary Film ResearchHi to all, Im working on a Documentary Film that includes a part that follows the Progress of Counselling, and im looking for a volunteer to undergo the Therapy. Although no payment is involved, a symbolic retribution could be given. If interested please drop me a line to the following email address with a brief intro: Mail-me Questions are welcome Thanks Post reply -->London Confessional counsellingdocumentary 25 May Confessional in resp to confessional relationships...-NicolaPerhaps the more you think about it the bigger this perceived change in your life would appear....it would be better to just take it day as it comes, enjoy friendships - love always comes along when you least expect it and who knows what is around the corner? I myself was very low after a 6 month relationship ended in October last year because of an affair on his part, I found it very hard to deal with but decided to get back in the saddle and registered on moveearth - a month later after lots of interesting dates with guys from all cultures I met my current boyfriend before xmas and have been madly in love ever since - just go for it, register on moveearth, go on some fun dates - what you gotta lose? I think you'll be pleasantly suprised... Post reply -->London Confessional Jo 23 Apr Confessional Relationships??I'm twenty.... years old ;-) and I just never have romantic relationships. I like to think I'm just a normal woman, quite attractive so I'm told, but the longer I go without a partner, the more enormous the change of lifestyle would have to be and the more it scares me, praps that's adding to the problem, but I've always had bad luck. I'm missing kisses, cuddles, affection, someone to share things with... as well as the obvious of course as I don't really do one-nighters. Please give me your opinions... Post reply -->London Confessional Nicola 4 Apr ^ Confessional Relationships??Hi, Kissing,cuddling etc. are fun when being imparted by someone you love, 1night stands are like going to the gym, nothing terrible, good exercise and actually might lead to something more, At 20 you have plenty of time but not so much experience, at 40 you have much less time so 1 night stands. Just remember if you find hapiness with yourself the rest will come to you unless you are a hermit. Post reply -->London Confessional lucky 14 May ^ Confessional Being romantic is mistaken often.If you are young (that you are) and attractive, people around you like to mistake and ignore your being romantic for asking for sx. In today's time, people are not sure of anything, hence they are in a hurry and want to make max of their time n opportunity I feel you should not worry on this. Just be what you are. Treasure good moments that you are able to have. Suggest if you go in for a matured guy, they start missing the romantic part in life, and can reciprocrate your romantic approach and feeling probably. Feel free to contact... Take care. Post reply -->London Confessional mathu 13 Oct |